You may be going through a separation or divorce - or even contemplating this as a way to resolve what feels like an impossible family situation.

 

You may have heard about how tough this can be -

you might have heard about how hard it is

- you might be right in the middle of a very difficult situation already..

 

you you may have heard stories about this time and how it has impacted others..

 

Everyone has heard the horror stories about this, what seem an ongoing battle that can last for many years, where the kids start to develop battle scars and signs of relational trauma...

 

Then there are those stories about other divorces and separations where there is no battle, where there is communication and the coparenting works.. 

 

You can create a calm place where the kids are not hit with fallout from a split

 

Because - you can be the place of calm in a storm,

when you respond to conditions in a way that creates

a real and present calm

 

Your children will also be more calm

because they are protected when you create this supportive coparenting focus - a place that allows your children and you to be more psychologically, emotionally and physical safe.. 

What I want you to know is you CAN choose how you will approach this time - your responses will determine a lot about the experience both you and your child will experience..

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They will know that this comes from a loving place,

not from a place of anger

they will sense it, see it, hear it - feel it..

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remember - children are sponges for behaviour

 

because your children are listening, watching, learning their behaviour, from you - they will model what you do now, into their future...

 

if you want your kids to be more stable - then it is important to model that stable behaviour yourself, right now..

 

You can choose to influence the coparenting and create the best  kind of coparenting that is going to be is right for your children!

 

whilst you have started this process, are you feeling stuck and suffering

 

I am here to help

You may wish to watch the following video for more details:

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How can a psychotherapist help coparents during divorce?

Cheryl Duffy, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Parenting Coordinator interviews Kerry Bailey, Psychotherapist from Sydney Hypno.